Large or Small Wedding?
With a small wedding, there are probably more venues to choose from as with a large wedding, you may be more restricted with number of guests.
Smaller will be less expensive, but your family and friends may be disappointed when they find out they were not invited.
Large weddings may be "the more ..the merrier" and will not offend anyone. You may have to pay more for your wedding but maybe the "money gifts" will help you in the end.
In any event, plan carefully, accept help and enjoy your big day!